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Parenting bloopers…

Parenting bloopers…

 

Hiiii all! Hope you’ve all had the best of weekends.

Today, I wanted to share a blog post all about parenting fails because lets be honest, they happen. A friend of mine recently asked how I’m mom bossing the heck out of parenting and I had to laugh out loud! How often do we paint this perfect picture for the world to see instead of the stressful life that we are actually living. Well, I’m now going to paint the not so perfect picture for y’all because it’s real. Bad days will come, that doesn’t make you a bad parent, it makes you HUMAN. We all need to remember this sometimes (okay, most of the time). We’re not perfect and won’t get things bang on every time because what fun would that be?

Blooper number 1)

We were lying in bed together on an innocent sunny morning. I turned my back for literally five seconds, and then… MASSIVE bang and theeeee loudest cry I ever did hear. Poor little E had rolled over for the first ever time resulting in her falling off the bed. Not my proudest parenting moment. It took me a good five minutes for me to calm her down after the breath holding cry that we all know too well. I legit thought I was the worst parent in the whole world… PAHA!

She wasn’t hurt, it was more the shock than anything and looking back I beat myself up for it more than I deserved. Since then, lots of parents have told me “horror” stories of incidents with their children. You wouldn’t be a parent without them because this is real life and it happens. You can always laugh about it in the future or tell your children they’re crazy because of how many times they bumped their head when they were litte (just kidding. Or am I …).

Blooper number 2)

It was just supposed to be an innocent car ride after poor little E had her 12 week injections. Casually drove around the roundabout as you do but heard this little bump in the back…. Turned and found the poor little pudding upside down in the car seat… How did that even happen? Dangling, half zonked from her injections, none the wiser but, still I nearly died. I was such a terrible mother, or so I thought. Me and Dada swore black and blue that it wasn’t us that hadn’t clipped her car seat into the isofix base properly (genius invention but tricky to get used to).

Looking back, I can and do laugh about it. These things happen. Again, she wasn’t hurt and won’t remember a single thing until we tell her all the shocking things we did when she’s older. Haha.

Blooper number 3)

Poo-nami’s are so so real. Not experienced one yet? You’re lucky, for now. Your turn will come soon enough. We were out having a nature day, walking in the forest. When Little E decides it’s the perfect time to do an almighty poop, as they always do. SO inconvenient (Joking,. Sort of).

The only place we could change her was in the back of the car, which is never ideal but it has to be done. It was a nice shiny, mercedes, a company car and Little E’s dada was more bothered about getting poop on those luscious leather seats than he was about cleaning her poor little bottom up. Yes, my friends, he wanted me to change that butt in the air. Of course, I didn’t because that just isn’t possible although I’m sure he wanted me to find a way. Boy’s and their toys aye.

Blooper number 4)

This one happened only recently so I am still recovering from the parenting fail.

Little E was being a little monkey and wouldn’t leave the party so I used my little leaving trick. Waving and shouting goodbye as I slowly started to edge away. Oh boy did it work as it always did. Shouting “noooo” and running as fast as her little legs could (which is like slow mo to any normal human being) she tripped and FACE planted the floor. Oh boy, did I feel bad. Lot’s of treats were consumed that day for little E.

Which is probably also a complete parenting fail, treats given because I felt bad but I’m rolling with it because it not only made her happy, but it made her slightly forget about her grazed lip, nose, eye AND head (yikes).

Blooper number 5)

It was about the third time we took little E swimming and she REALLY enjoyed sitting on the edge of the pool and jumping into your arms nearly as much as tricking you into sitting her on the edge and her running away. Not fun, trying to climb out of a pool as fast as you can to grab an escaping toddler. Gosh, they keep you on your tippy toes don’t they?

Well, this one time she didn’t run away and she jumped straight in before anyone was ready to catch her which resulted in her dive bombing in to the pool and coming back up in total shock at what had just happened, blowing endless amounts of raspberries to get the water off of her face. Parenting or baby fail though? Juuuust kidding. We definitely upped our observing game after that one.

I have PLENTY more bloopers that I could share but I just wanted to show that these things happen. Parenting fails are real. Everyone experiences them, you’d be lying if you said you didn’t. My little girl is happy and loved and that is all that is important.

There is no manual to parenting, you kind of just have to wing it. See what works and see what doesn’t. When things go wrong, this is how we learn. So embrace those bloopers, I sure am. Little E will thank me for the laughs when she’s older. Life is all about having fun along the way, so do just that. Don’t take everything so seriously, you’ll be happier for it I promise.

If you have any parenting bloopers/fails share them below or send me a message. I would LOVE to hear them and know I’m not alone. We’re all in this together after all.

Hope you all have a fantastic week and embrace those parenting fails that come along the way. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You are bossing the heck out of this parenting game, you’re doing your best and that is all that you can do. Enjoy!

Ohthatstacey

xo

My top tips to live the life you love♡

My top tips to live the life you love♡

Hiiii everyone, hope you’ve had the best weekend and are feeling refreshed and ready to take on a new week.

I’ve recently made quite a massive decision in my life that is going to make a huge impact on my future. I’ve had many people question it, some just curious and others maaaaybe a little judgey, but I’m cool with it, HOWEVER, it did get me to thinking. I’m trying real hard to follow these few steps in my life to help me remember that ultimately, my happiness is really important and I should have the mindset to be able to achieve whatever I want to in life, in whatever timeframe.

Step number one) Write a list of everything you want to achieve in your life, lists are magic for the brain I promise. Don’t give yourself a timeframe, that’s just waiting for pressure to fall on your shoulders. No matter how far-fetched or how silly the goals may seem, add them all to your list. This will be your life passport. How many times have you heard people say oh I’ve always wanted to do that but I can’t because of this. I’ve said it probably far too many times and I’m really trying my best to change that. The only opportunities we miss are the ones we decide not to take.

Step number two) throw out negativity, ain’t nobody got time for that. For reals though, positive vibes are what you need. Someone raining on your parade? Either dump their ass orrrr help them see your side. Sometimes negativity comes from others but a lot of the time the negativity comes from ourselves. When did it become the norm to beat ourselves up so damn much? Time to start saying yes more. Time to think that our cup is half full and not half empty.

Step number three) The only people whose opinions matter are those who love and care for you and you love them. Want to be a full-time mom/housewife/dad/house husband? Do it. Want to work yourself up the career ladder AND be a mom/dad? Do it? Want to own your own business and boss being a parent? Do it. You’re catching my drift, right? YOU and only you are in control of your life, don’t let anyone else have that power over you. You know what your heart wants, no one else. Go get it.

Step number four) Always remember that failure is good. Failure is the pathway to a learning curve. You may only slip and graze your knee or you may fall hard and break your leg. Don’t let that make you quit. Failure and hard times will come I promise you that. Life isn’t easy but it’s not meant to be. Work, learn and move on. Don’t dwell on things you can’t change. Look forward but never forget and you will be so so much happier for it.

And finally, step number five) Enjoy the journey. Every day I try and remember all the many blessings I have in my life. When I’m out for a walk I listen to the birds chirping and smile, not only because I love that sound but because how lucky I am to hear them. I can be as grumpy as the next person (hangry is a real thing) but I’m trying to implement this positive attitude into my life. I’ve had trials, I have difficulties in day to day life that I’m battling as I’m sure everyone does but that doesn’t mean I have a bad life. It’s just a bad day, not a bad life. Take each day as it comes and throw yourself completely into every opportunity, you’ll regret it if you don’t and regret is a terrible feeling.

Eat that cake and then double up on your fruit and veg, balance is everything. Buy yourself those shoes but put extra in your savings next time, you deserve a treat. Life can be as good as we make it. Bad times come, have your loved ones close and they’ll help you get through it. Don’t ever let anyone tell you how you should live your life, everyone is different. What is the norm for me will be unusual to someone else and that’s okay. Embrace your differences, that’s what makes you, you. And YOU are pretty dang amazing.

Have the best week ♡

-S

xo

Happiness is the journey not a destination ♡

Happiness is the journey not a destination ♡

Hiiii everyone, hope you’ve all had a fab weekend! I sure have 🙂

I recently had a look through all of my old journals and found them so interesting. Even though I know what’s happened in my life, I love reading back on the different moments and remembering how I felt at that exact time. As I was flicking through I read about good times, amazing times, sad times and some absolute heart wrenching times and it got me to thinking (oh no 🙈).

Recently, as you all may know I’ve tried to make my life as positive as possible. When cruddy things happen, as they do to everyone I’ve tried to stay as positive as possible and it’s so interesting to see the ways I used to react to certain situations when I was younger, quite funny really. Funny as to how differently I would probably react now. I know most of that is just to growing up (I don’t think I’ve done too much of that mind, I’m a kid at heart) but a lot of it is the way I’m trying to deal with things. The ONLY person that is responsible for our own happiness is ourselves. Yes, cruddy things happen. Yes, people can be cruddy but WE are the ones that let those things affect our happiness.

Now, don’t get me wrong I know that it’s good to be sad and to cry it out sometimes. That’s healthy and I absolutely recommend doing that in difficult situations. But that is only okay in the short term. If we let bad situations take over our lives it can make a huge negative impact on our lives. Be sad, be angry, let it all out and then move on. It will benefit the long term for sure.

If someone has wronged you, talk to them about it. Not in a confrontational way but in a nice way to help you BOTH solve the situation. I’ve learnt that sometimes people wrong you because they feel like you’ve wronged them. Talking to someone rather than holding a grudge can play a massive part in your happiness, not only yours but theirs too. Which leads to less risk of any regrets.

If you feel like you’ve hurt someone and want to fix it, talk to them about it. Apologise, if they don’t accept it then that is okay because you have done all that you can. Move on and learn from what happened.

I know these things are easier said than done. I struggle doing them as much as the next person BUT I have found making these small changes so far are making a massive positive impact in my life.

Life is hard. It throws massive curveballs your way when you least expect it. The least you can do to help yourself is make sure that you have no regrets, no bad feelings and just feel happy about how you live your life. Then when hard times come, you can focus solely on that. I promise it makes a huge difference.

At the end of the day, we’re only human. We make mistakes, we do things we regret that we wish we could take back. That’s okay. Don’t be so hard on yourself. This is life, it’s short, too short sometimes. Don’t waste time dwelling on the past. Learn from it and move on from it. Your life will be better for it.

When we stop and look around at the many blessings we have in our lives, life becomes pretty beautiful. I know it’s difficult to be happy and positive all the time, I’m not saying I am because I’m sure my family would for sure say I’m not. I believe being grumpy every now and again is good for the soul haha.

But for reals, smile. Be open about your feelings, don’t keep anything locked up inside. Remember that this is YOUR life and you should live it the best way YOU can, you’re rocking it though I’m sure.

I hope you have a fresh start to the week and don’t forget to smile, see who smiles back when you do 🙂

ohthatstacey

xo

Twenty facts about me ♡

IMG_3835Hi everyoneeee! Hope you’ve all had an amazing weekend.

I realise, I haven’t ever really, given you a lot of details about me and what better way to learn about someone than to give you some random facts? I’ve came up with a list of twenty, which was actually more difficult than I thought and quite fun. Try and come up with twenty about yourself, see how you do and comment below if you’d like to share. If you can’t think of twenty, any amount would be good. I’d love to get to know people a bit more 🙂

So here goes..
T w e n t y facts about me
♡ I sneeze EVERY time I chew chewing gum. Does anyone else experience this? Please tell me you do. I legit have NEVER chewed a piece of chewingum without sneezing. What is that all about?
♡ I absolutely hate confrontation and will avoid it in every possible way I can — Even if it’s absolutely needed. I’m sure I’m not the only one with this one. It drives my husband crackers because he’s possibly the only person that I confront about anything.. oops! Haha.
♡ I was born six weeks early. I was fairly poorly, my parents were told to prepare for the worst and here I am, total fighter, yo 💁 Anyone else born early? We can be preemie friends!
♡ My most favourite thing to do in the morning is dance in my underwear while singing into my hairbrush/deodrant can/shampoo bottle (you catch my drift). For reals. It makes my day. I’ve wrote about this in several blog posts so it’s not exactly new news. It for real, makes any day better. You should try it more.
♡ I L O V E meeting new people and hearing their life stories. Which is why I would LOVE you to comment below with any random facts you have to share 🙂
♡ I want S I X children, I grew up in a big family and think it’s the best thing everrrr. Suppose it doesn’t help that I’m broody, CONSTANTLY. I’m only 24 and I think I have quite a bit of time to fulfil that dream.
♡ I love chocolate but I want the perfect bod, it’s a never ending struggle! I’ve recently started at slimming world again, it’s the perfect balance and I’m hoping I’ll get that six pack I dream of, with hard work of course.
♡ I am completely tone deaf but loooove to sing at the top of my voice in the car, yep I’m THAT person at the traffic lights. I once drove next to someone dancing quite embarrassingly on the motorway without realising the car full of people were all watching me… oops! Britains got talent, come at me!
♡ Humour is my most favourite thing and it’s what I’m drawn to most in a person. What is better than laughing the whole day through? I have so many hilariously crazy people in my life and I couldn’t imagine it any other way. If you can make me laugh, let’s be friends!
♡ I had my whole life planned out when I was 18 and I am currently living the complete opposite of that plan. Yep. Enough said.
♡ I have always and will always want to own a yellow beetle (car). One day. One day my car dream will come true! Anyone else?
♡ I desperately want to travel the world, starting with a safari in Africa! Who doesn’t though really?
♡ I have only ever had two serious boyfriends, I married my second.
♡ I’m an absolute sucker for romance and I married the least romantic person in the world.. go figure!
♡ I’m a teeny weeny bit of a daydreamer. I can’t help it! I don’t even know what I dream about half the time, a better world though for sure! And driving around in that dream yellow beetle of mine.
♡ I want that perfect, American smile more than anything else. YES PLEASE.
♡ I’m actually super competitive but don’t realise how bad until I’m playing a game that I’m losing. Another secret is that if I’m losing a game I pretend I don’t care and laugh it off but inside I’m dyingggg and figuring out ways to kick everyone’s ass who’s playing haha.
♡ I’m a total Netflix junkie. Evenings snuggled in my pjs and series on repeat. Yes please.
♡ I love love looooove baking and just wish I had more time to do it, my hips are grateful that I don’t. (When I bake, I eaaaat).
♡ I have a slight obsession with pyjamas, I’m forever getting new pairs and probably have far too many but they make me happy. I think I have about 30 pjs, oops. All for comfort though!

So there you go, you know a little bit more about me and my crazy life now. Let me get to know a little bit more about you?

ohthatstacey

xo

Kindness doesn’t cost a thing ♡

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Hiiii everyone 🙋I hope you’re all having the best long, Easter weekend! Who doesn’t love a four day weekend though, am I right or am I right?

Today, I want to talk a little about something I am FOREVER talking about, kindness. Kindness is free, right? Then why don’t we see all that much of it in the world anymore.

I was having a conversation with some younger girls a few weeks back and they were telling me that at school, if they compliment another girl, they are seen as dumb. The meaner you are, the more popular you become. When did this become a thing? What a world we live in when being mean has become cool (I’m rolling my eyes right now). It’s not cool, end of story.

It’s not just at school this is happening unfortunately, it’s in the work place, it’s amongst the moms at the gate picking their kids up for school, it’s everywhere, children and adults alike. What are we teaching the children around us if adults can’t even be a little nicer to one another?

When you’re having a bad day and someone compliments you on how great your hair looks, doesn’t your day turn around, even if it’s only for five minutes? It still makes you smile. If you’re having a bad day and someone is mean, it makes your whole day completely worse! There’s no doubt about it, being kind makes SUCH a positive difference and I’m all for positivity in life.

Ive been receiving so many wonderful acts of kindness over this past week and it makes my heart feel happy at a difficult time because there ARE wonderfully, kind people in the world and we need to promote that more. Especially to our children. We NEEEED to make being kind cool again.

I’m not talking walking up to random strangers and complimenting them, as amazing as that would be. A simple act of kindness that you can do every day of your life is smile. A smile makes ALL the difference to someone’s day, believe me. Being a smiley, happy person gets you a lonngggg way. People appreciate a good smile. I’m told a lot that I’m very smiley and I can’t think of a better compliment. If you look for things to smile about in each day, it’ll become like second nature and you’ll notice positive changes happening in your life.

The world has enough craziness going on in it every day so why not do your part to make it that bit nicer to live in? At the end of the day, life is too short to be anything but happy. Forget that grudge you’ve been carrying around for far too long, apologise to your partner for calling him names I probably shouldn’t write on here for leaving his dirty clothes right next to the laundry basket (AGAIN!!), do a random act of kindness by leaving a pound in the trolley for the next person to come along and find and S M I L E, smile, smileeeee. I promise you that you will feel better for it. Kindness doesn’t have to be a big thing, it can be small things in every day life that makes this world a better, happier place to live in. Start today and spot the difference.

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Ohthatstacey

xo

Squashing the negative ♡

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Hiiiii everyone, hope you’re all enjoying this very sunshiney weekend!

I was talking to a good friend of mine about the world we’re bringing our children up in and it really got me to thinking. She was sharing experiences of her children having run ins with other children (which happens I know, that’s life), it’s a shame for me to say that this happens in adult life too.

How do we explain to our precious littles that sometimes in the world people can be mean intentionally or unintentionally and we just have to rise above it?

Im sure at some point in everyone’s life they’ve been at the brunt of someone’s anger, they’ve been hurt by someone’s words, been manipulated or bullied in some way. Talking from personal experience, it is SO hard to overcome these difficulties with positivity. I hate confrontation, and will avoid wherever possible however, I still stick up for myself and I guess that’s the most important thing.

You can be kind but still be courageous. And that’s an important aspect to teach our children.

Every day, we hear of bad things happening all around us. It’s terrifying knowing you’re bringing children up in this crazy world with crazy things happening all around. You do want to just wrap them in bubble wrap and keep them safe, holding your hand forever.

I understand now more than ever why my mom sheltered me when I was younger and why she kept me away from certain things, I’m grateful for that now (even though I was probably an argumentative pain in the backside back then) ha. That’s life, we live and we learn.

Ive seen a fair few heart breakingly sad situations so far in my nursing career and if it’s taught me anything, it’s taught me that life is short, too short and you never, ever know what is around the corner. Be kind, bring up your children to be kind.

Im trying out this new lifestyle where I surround myself with positivity and already I can feel the difference. There’s so much negativity in the world already, be that positive face that everyone needs to see and make a difference in not only your life but everyone’s around you too ♡

ohthatstacey

xo