Never ever ever compare yourself to other moms like, ever.
I am in no means, a mom God or genius BUT I do know that comparing yourself to others never gets you anywhere. In fact, if anything it sends you down lower. Life is hard. We need to do everything we can to keep ourselves positive and pick ourselves up, that my friends, will never be achieved by comparing yourself to others.
Yes, that mom who makes home cooked, organic meals for breakfast, lunch and dinner every day of the week is AMAZING. But do you know who else is? The mom who feeds her child whatever she can.
Yes, the mom who still manages to breast feed a whole twelve months later is a complete goddess. But do you know who else is? The mom who gives her baby whatever milk she can.
Yes, the mom who looks amazingly immaculate day in day out and still manages to mom is just perfection. But, do you know who else is? The mom who rocks the mom bun and bag eyes with whatever outfit she can throw together most days and still manages to mom.
Do you see where I’m going with this? There’s no competition here. Or at least, there shouldn’t be, because every mom is different and moms in different ways and that is perfectly okay. It’s what makes you, you.
I mean, we’ve all been there. Envious of how well another mama is bossing at it. The mom you’re wishing you were like is probably wishing that they were more like you too! If you haven’t experienced mom envy than I applaud you! That is an achievement and a half. But for those that have, fear not, you are not alone and it is perfectly normal.
Instead of focusing on how perfect other moms are, I try and focus on my own achievements as a mom. I mean, if I go a day wearing a white top and get no stains on it all day then, I’m taking that as a mom win and I feel like I’ve succeeded for the day. It’s all in the little things when you’re a mama. Peeing by yourself, eating a whole biscuit without a little slobbering about it close by, doing a food shop with zero tantrums (from both kiddies and parents. You see, there’s lots of parenting wins that happen in our daily lives we’ve just got to look out for them.
At the end of the day, I try and think of all the mom good I did for that day. If it’s just that my child is clean (mostly), fed and loved than I know it’s been a good day. Us moms have got to get out of the habit of being hard on ourselves. There’s too many other people doing that for us. So, shove that little green mom envy monster in to a place that it can’t be found (find a toddlers hiding place) because that, is where it belongs.
Chin up mama, you’re doing SUCH a good job.
Happy none envious mama days.