As I was searching the awesomeness of Pinterest lately I stumbled upon a LOT of quotes regarding parenting that really hit home with me. They really made me take a step back and think about the sort of parent I want to be. Moming is flippin’ hard, I get grouchy when I’ve not had enough sleep or if my little monkey won’t nap when I want her to. I stress when she won’t eat that vegetable or that meal I spent hours preppin. When really, I just need to take a look at the bigger picture.
“When the milk is splattered all over the floor, and those little eyes are looking at you for your reaction, remember what really matters. It takes five minutes to clean up spilled milk. It takes much longer to clean up a broken spirit”.
W O W !! Children do things, silly things that seem to push every single, mad button that we have. Today, for example, Esmé was squishing her crisps with her spoon making them go eeeeeverywhere. I told her to stop and said I would take the spoon away and then I remembered that quote. Really, what are a few crumbs on the floor going to do? They’re not going to harm anyone. Especially considering I would be vacuuming up as soon as she’d finished eating. She wasn’t doing it to be naughty, she was just playing in the only way she knew how.
Now, that got me to thinkin. How many times had I told her off, disciplined her or got mad because of something she’d done (like drawing all over my white walls in purple crayon), did I deal with that situation in the right way? I don’t mean let them do whatever they want and have no consequences. BUT, doing it with love and teaching them that anything done the kind way is better than any other. Right?! I don’t know about you, but that’s what I want my little girl to learn.
“When little people are overwhelmed with big emotions, it’s our job to share our calm, not join the chaos”.
…… Well, ain’t that just the truth. Does it help when Esmé is having a meltdown that I lose my cool? Nope. Does it go a lot more smoothly when I’m calm with her? You bet! I’m not saying that we should cuddle our children whenever they do something wrong and reward them. BUT, there is a mahoooosive difference between talking WITH them and talking AT them. Try it, I promise it will change your parenting life. You’ve heard it before, if you’re stressed, they’re stressed. I know it isn’t easy to stay calm always but I’ve promised myself to at least try my best, because that’s all we can do right? Our best.
“Speak to your children as if they are the wisest, kindest, most beautiful and magical humans on earth. For what they believe, is what they will become”.
Well now doesn’t that just make me feel like a bad mom. Of course, I think my child is just absolutely incredible every single day but dang it, it’s hard. How often does your child copy what you say? Mine does alllll the time, I want her to grow up full of love and kindness (I want her to keep her sass too) because the world needs more of that. There’s enough hard, cold people out there.
Our children are the most magical little people, we should most definitely speak to them that way. Whatever the situation. Discipline can still be done with love and that’s something I’m going to remind myself of every day. Even when she throws a ginormous paddy in the middle of the supermarket. I’ll count to ten and throw fairy dust all over her, a rainbow will appear and it will all be dandy. I’m kidding. Of course. Being a little nicer and a little more patient isn’t going to make my toddler magically well more behaved BUT, at least she’ll know that no matter what, I love her and I always will. Because isn’t that what’s most important?
Happy parenting loves.