HA! Who am I kidding? There is definitely no step by step guide to mom. I mean, wouldn’t life be SO much easier as a mom if it were that simple? Give me a hell yeaaaah! So, my step by step guide isn’t exactly precise things you need to do to win at parenting. BUT, it is a step by step guide to get you through the days from doom and gloom to cupcakes and rainbows.
Step one: Take a step back. When your teenage toddler is throwing the tenth almighty tantrum of the day, or they’re refusing the food you prepped for the last two hours, OR quite simply you’re sleep deprived as heck and feel like a walking zombie, just take a step riiiiiight back. Take a breath or two (or ten) and just think about newborn kisses and cuddles. You know those times where they didn’t tug on your trouser leg screaming, begging for their fifth punnet of blueberries that’s going to make them poop to the heavens? Or is that just my girl only? Anyway, soak in the memories of when your only worry when leaving them on their own for a second would be if they’d roll over and you’d miss it. Ahhh bliss. Kidding (kind of). The important thing to remember is that they are cute, you love them and they are the best part of you.
Step two: always always, always have something to look forward to. If it be that bad of chocolate you’ll devour at the end of the week, that girls night, massage, holiday, bath time alone. Literally, whatever makes you happy. Always have something like that on the agenda. So, if you’re having a bad you can look forward to your little treat and know that life isn’t all that bad. At least, it won’t be for much longer. Parenting is hard, sometimes it’s difficult to see light at the end of the tunnel when it’s been a long, hard, trying day. Treat yo’self folks!
Step three: have fun. They may test your patience and push you to the absolute limit but they won’t be little forever. How many times has someone said that to you? It’s so unbelievably true. Time goes SO fast, too fast majority of the time. Make the most of the precious time you have with them now. Dance around with them crazily while singing the alphabet in a helium voice. Pop (clean) nappies on your head while playing peeka boo and make crazy monster noises while chasing them. Make them laugh and have a few chuckles yourself too. Find joy and laughter in every day. I promise it will make life feel that little bit easier.
Step four: cut yourself some slack. If you lose your crud and shout too much one day, it’s perfectly okay. You’re human, you have so many buttons that can be pushed, these children like to push them. Don’t punish yourself, ever. As long as your child is clean, fed and loved, you are doing your best and that is all that matters. Most importantly, don’t be so hard on yourself. Teach your child first hand that it’s okay to make mistakes and it’s okay to not get everything right. It’s okay to be you, with all of your flaws. What better way to teach our children than with our own example. You’ve got this darlings, keep doing you, because Y O U rock!