We’ve all been there. Spent a little extra time doing our hair, bought ourselves a new outfit, planned to go out for the evening. That massive wave of mom guilt comes flying in. Why? Because now we think that because we’re a mom, all of our time and devotion should be on our child. We’re not far wrong when it comes to that. BUT that teeny bit of spare time we ever have should be invested in ourselves. I can’t stress enough how important that is.
I can really see the impact it has on my sanity if I don’t take some time out for myself in a week. We need it, we’re human and dang it, we sure as heck deserve it (insert praise hands emoji here). Now, sure just because we deserve to invest in ourselves, doesn’t mean that dreaded mom guilt isn’t going to make an appearance. Here are my ways to nip that green little monster in the butt (yes I’m pairing it with jealousy, they’re probably best friends).
R e m i n d yourself daily that you are doing the best job you possibly can. Your child is safe, clean (most of the time) and loved. That, my friends, is all that truly matters. Are they not going to be any of those things just because you treat yourself to that new pair of shoes you’ve been dying to get? Nope. Their wardrobe is bound to be bulging full so don’t you worry your pretty little face about it. Treat yourself. You’ll thank yourself for it later. Besides, if we’ve got to rock that mom bun and big bagged eyes look than why not pair it with a gorgeous pair of shoes?
U n d e r s t a n d that it is important to be in the best frame of mind to be the best parents to our children. When you’re over tired, got a banging head ache and haven’t eaten since the leftovers from last nights dinner.. Do you really think you’re going to handle a tantrum without having an almighty meltdown yourself too? Probs not. Take care of yourself and you’ll be a better parent for it, I promise you. Happy mom = happy children 100%.
K n o w that one day your child will understand why you’re going to work. You’ll teach them about all the things you don’t think about when they’re crying for you as you close the front door. Independence, respect, gratitude, understanding, not to mention the memories of what you were able to provide for them from working.
I had MAJOR mom guilt when I went back to work after maternity leave. It hit me harddddd. I didn’t want any one else to be looking after my child, that was my job. But those six months taught me the most about being a mother. It taught me patience.. boyyyy, a whole lot of patience, respect for other working moms and love. Even more love than I could have ever imagined. I appreciated every little moment so. much. more.
Oh and you stay at home moms, I salute you. This stuff is harddddd. You da bomb!
L o o k at the bigger picture here. Yes you’re a mom but you are also you. Just like I am me, Stacey. I still have my interests, my hobbies, my passions. My child has become my number one priority but that doesn’t mean that I can’t be me. I’m still Stacey even when I’m Mom. Still the crazy, little old me. Life is for living. You can live as a mom, no matter the people that tell you you’ll be tied down forever. The only thing you’re tied down to is love. A whole lot of love. Now, go buy those shoes, go sign up for that course, go eat that cake, go on that spa trip/girls holiday. You do you and be happy. Because every child needs a happy mom as well as a tired, crazy, emotional, NORMAL mom. And I promise you, the way you are feeling is completely normal. You’re not alone and never will be. Us moms gotta stick together. Who’s with me?