Hiiii everyone, hope you’ve all had a fab weekend! I sure have 🙂
I recently had a look through all of my old journals and found them so interesting. Even though I know what’s happened in my life, I love reading back on the different moments and remembering how I felt at that exact time. As I was flicking through I read about good times, amazing times, sad times and some absolute heart wrenching times and it got me to thinking (oh no 🙈).
Recently, as you all may know I’ve tried to make my life as positive as possible. When cruddy things happen, as they do to everyone I’ve tried to stay as positive as possible and it’s so interesting to see the ways I used to react to certain situations when I was younger, quite funny really. Funny as to how differently I would probably react now. I know most of that is just to growing up (I don’t think I’ve done too much of that mind, I’m a kid at heart) but a lot of it is the way I’m trying to deal with things. The ONLY person that is responsible for our own happiness is ourselves. Yes, cruddy things happen. Yes, people can be cruddy but WE are the ones that let those things affect our happiness.
Now, don’t get me wrong I know that it’s good to be sad and to cry it out sometimes. That’s healthy and I absolutely recommend doing that in difficult situations. But that is only okay in the short term. If we let bad situations take over our lives it can make a huge negative impact on our lives. Be sad, be angry, let it all out and then move on. It will benefit the long term for sure.
If someone has wronged you, talk to them about it. Not in a confrontational way but in a nice way to help you BOTH solve the situation. I’ve learnt that sometimes people wrong you because they feel like you’ve wronged them. Talking to someone rather than holding a grudge can play a massive part in your happiness, not only yours but theirs too. Which leads to less risk of any regrets.
If you feel like you’ve hurt someone and want to fix it, talk to them about it. Apologise, if they don’t accept it then that is okay because you have done all that you can. Move on and learn from what happened.
I know these things are easier said than done. I struggle doing them as much as the next person BUT I have found making these small changes so far are making a massive positive impact in my life.
Life is hard. It throws massive curveballs your way when you least expect it. The least you can do to help yourself is make sure that you have no regrets, no bad feelings and just feel happy about how you live your life. Then when hard times come, you can focus solely on that. I promise it makes a huge difference.
At the end of the day, we’re only human. We make mistakes, we do things we regret that we wish we could take back. That’s okay. Don’t be so hard on yourself. This is life, it’s short, too short sometimes. Don’t waste time dwelling on the past. Learn from it and move on from it. Your life will be better for it.
When we stop and look around at the many blessings we have in our lives, life becomes pretty beautiful. I know it’s difficult to be happy and positive all the time, I’m not saying I am because I’m sure my family would for sure say I’m not. I believe being grumpy every now and again is good for the soul haha.
But for reals, smile. Be open about your feelings, don’t keep anything locked up inside. Remember that this is YOUR life and you should live it the best way YOU can, you’re rocking it though I’m sure.
I hope you have a fresh start to the week and don’t forget to smile, see who smiles back when you do 🙂